Interpersonal forgiving in close relationships
01 Aug 1997-Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (American Psychological Association)-Vol. 73, Iss: 2, pp 321-336
TL;DR: Evidence is found consistent with the hypotheses that the relationship between receiving an apology from and forgiving one's offender is a function of increased empathy for the offender and that forgiving is uniquely related to conciliatory behavior and avoidance behavior toward the offending partner.
Abstract: Forgiving is a motivational transformation that inclines people to inhibit relationship-destructive responses and to behave constructively toward someone who has behaved destructively toward them. The authors describe a model of forgiveness based on the hypothesis that people forgive others to the extent that they experience empathy for them. Two studies investigated the empathy model of forgiveness. In Study 1, the authors developed measures of empathy and forgiveness. The authors found evidence consistent with the hypotheses that (a) the relationship between receiving an apology from and forgiving one's offender is a function of increased empathy for the offender and (b) that forgiving is uniquely related to conciliatory behavior and avoidance behavior toward the offending partner. In Study 2, the authors conducted an intervention in which empathy was manipulated to examine the empathy-forgiving relationship more closely. Results generally supported the conceptualization of forgiving as a motivational phenomenon and the empathy-forgiving link.
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TL;DR: In this paper, the authors examined whether victims believed that forgiveness requires interpersonal interaction between the victim and the offender and found that having an interpersonal conceptualization of forgiveness was positively related to a collectivistic worldview.
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TL;DR: This paper examined the interactive effects of apology source (i.e., whether an apology is given by a chief executive officer or employee) and apology components (e.g., acknowledgment, remorse, and compensation) on forgiveness.
Abstract: This paper examines the interactive effects of apology source (i.e., whether an apology is given by a chief executive officer or employee) and apology components (i.e., acknowledgment, remorse, and compensation) on forgiveness. Results revealed a significant source by component interaction. A remorseful employee apology was more successful than a remorseful CEO apology because consumers felt more empathy for the employee. Furthermore, a compensatory CEO apology was more effective than a compensatory employee apology because CEOs could significantly affect consumer perceptions of justice. No significant differences were found between apology source and the apology component of acknowledging violated rules and norms.
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TL;DR: Apology in law, particularly in civil law has become very prominent in Australia with every state and territory introducing legislation that promotes the making of apologetic statement by wrongdoers in civil proceedings as discussed by the authors.
Abstract: Apology in law, particularly in civil law has become very prominent in Australia with every state and territory introducing legislation that promotes the making of apologetic statement by wrongdoers in civil proceedings. In this article I briefly review some of the arguments that are offered in support of these provisions and then examine some of the questions that arise from them. In this regard I consider the meaning that the construct of apology has in civil justice and the assumption that an apology may avert lawsuits. I conclude by examining the conflicting arguments about the morality of protecting apologies from being admitted as evidence against defendants in civil proceedings.
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...At a behavioural level, the results of surveys (McCullough et al., 1997; Zechmeister & Romero, 2002), vignette studies (see, e.g., Darby & Schlenker, 1982) and laboratory experiments (Ohbuchi et al., 1989; Zechmeister, et al., 2004) demonstrate that victims who received an apology refrain from…...
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...…behaviour to circumstances (rather than 10 the intentional, controlled, and avoidable behaviour of the wrongdoers) experience less anger (Averill, 1983a, 1983b; Weiner, 1985) and are more likely to forgive the wrongdoer (Kremer & Stephens, 1983; McCullough et al., 1998; McCullough et al., 1997)....
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...10 the intentional, controlled, and avoidable behaviour of the wrongdoers) experience less anger (Averill, 1983a, 1983b; Weiner, 1985) and are more likely to forgive the wrongdoer (Kremer & Stephens, 1983; McCullough et al., 1998; McCullough et al., 1997)....
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TL;DR: For example, the authors suggests that altruistically-motivated forgiveness is an ideal we rarely achieve, and identifies ways that God promotes altruistically motivated forgiveness, which is impossible to achieve.
Abstract: We suggest that altruistically-motivated forgiveness is an ideal we rarely achieve. In fact, we often think such forgiveness is impossible. Our contribution is to identify ways that God promotes fo...
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TL;DR: The findings suggest that the partner-versus-relationship conflicts provide fertile ground for novel theorizing and empirical investigations and that relationship commitment appears to be less of a partner-promoting construct than relationship science has suggested; instead, its role seems to be focused on promoting the interests of the relationship.
Abstract: Research on close relationships has frequently contrasted one’s own interests with the interests of the partner or the relationship and has tended to view the partner’s and the relationship’s interests as inherently aligned. The present article demonstrated that relationship commitment typically causes people to support their partner’s personal interests but that this effect gets weaker to the extent that those interests misalign or even threaten the relationship. Studies 1a and 1b showed that (a) despite their strong correlation, partner-oriented and relationship-oriented concerns in goal-directed behaviors are separable and (b) relationship commitment strengthens only the link between relationship-oriented motivation and the goal pursuit (not the link between partner-oriented motivation and the goal pursuit). The remaining 7 studies zero in on circumstances in which the partner’s and the relationship’s interests are in conflict, demonstrating that (c) relationship commitment reliably increases the tendency to support the partner’s personal interests when those interests do not pose a strong threat to the relationship but that (d) this effect becomes weaker—and even reverses direction—as the relationship threat posed by the partner’s interests becomes stronger. The reduction or reversal of the positive link between relationship commitment and propartner behaviors in such situations is termed the Manhattan effect. These findings suggest that the partner-versus-relationship conflicts provide fertile ground for novel theorizing and empirical investigations and that relationship commitment appears to be less of a partner-promoting construct than relationship science has suggested; instead, its role appears to be focused on promoting the interests of the relationship.
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...Social psychologists have also addressed interpersonal forgiving from time to time (Darby & Schlenker, 1982; Gahagan & Tedeschi, 1968; Heider, 1958; Horai, Lindskold, Gahagan, & Tedeschi, 1969; Weiner, Graham, Peter, & Zmuidinas, 1991)....
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