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Marital Satisfaction in Different Types of Marriage

Abstract: Among all the interpersonal relations, marriage is the most important one as mostly people get married at least once in their life (Berscheid & Regan, 2005). Marriage is not only a close personal relationship but also a social institution which affects the life of people. It is basis for the formation of a family in terms of producing and raising children (Ponzetti & Mutch, 2006) as it legally allows sexual relations and encourages loyalty between husband and wife (Rao, 2002; Stutzer & Frey, 2006). Marriage starts with the selection of a marriage partner which is one of the most serious decision in the life of an individual (Fisman, Iyengar, Kamenica, & Simonson, 2006). The way of selecting a marriage partner, procedure, rules and criteria vary mostly from culture to culture and from one society to another. Individuals sometimes select their spouse with their own choice and sometimes they are selected by other individuals such as family etc. Hamon and Ingoldsby (2003) described three approaches for mate selection; marriage by capture, arranged marriage and free-choice mate selection. Marriage by capture is not a usual and accepted method as in it men marry the women by force and without women's will. Zadeh (2003) categorized marriages in terms of procedure into totally arranged marriages, partially arranged, partially love marriages and totally love marriages. In the same vein, Arif (2012) observed three ways of marriage in Pakistan i.e arranged marriage, marriage by choice with parental acceptance and marriage by choice without parental acceptance.Although both arranged and by choice marriages are acceptable in various cultures, they have very different characteristics, results and diverse affects on individuals (Dost, Shaft, Shaheen & Khan, 2011). An arranged marriage involves two individuals who are strangers for each other but their families choose them to be married. Sometimes both individuals have a chance to know about each other before accepting each other as a potential partner. It is involved. Family members such as parents, siblings or elders and professional match makers select suitable potential partners for mostly done with the consent and permission of the partner's young people. In arranged marriages vocation of the groom rather than love, is an important factor. Caste, class, religion, family reputation, horoscope, age and language etc are the focus of concern in arranged marriages (Stange, Oyster, & Saloan, 2011).Marriage of choice is commonly referred as love marriage. Love marriages are those in which two people feel love for each other and they wish to share that love for the rest of their life and so they decide to be married (Dost, Shafi, Shaheen, & Khan, 2011). Young men and women are likely to date, court, fall in love, and then decide whether to get married, in accordance with their choice of a potential partner, with or without parental consent. Love marriages are considered to be full of love, emotions and belief of a beautiful loving future but there is no assurance of success (Dost, Shafi, Shaheen, & Khan, 2011).As we know that the mate selection procedures vary from culture to culture so in individualistic societies mate is selected by the individuals themselves whereas in countries with collectivist orientations, mate is often selected by the family rather than the individuals (Cohen, DeVault, & Strong, 2011). Saroja and Surendra (1991) investigated the endogamous preference of mate selection in postgraduate students of India. The results revealed that 58% of the students preferred arranged marriages whereas 42% of the students preferred to marry for love.Pakistan is also the country with collectivist orientation and the practice and meaning of marriages in Pakistan reflects a pattern quite different from that of the Western world. In Pakistan, marriage represents the union of two families. Marriage is more a social affair than an individual affair, as it is considered as the union of two families not just two individuals (Sonpar, 2005). …

"You married for better or worse, didn't you?" An analysis of changing attitudes to love, marriage and divorce in the "New Zealand Woman's Weekly", 1950 and 1980

Abstract: .................................................................................................................................. 2 TABLE OF CONTENTS.................................................................................................................. 4 LIST OF FIGURES ......................................................................................................................... 5 ATTESTATION OF AUTHORSHIP ................................................................................................. 6 ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS .............................................................................................................. 7 Chapter 1: Introduction ............................................................................................................. 8 Chapter 2: Literature Review ................................................................................................... 13 Chapter 3: Methodology and Method ..................................................................................... 30 Methodology ........................................................................................................................ 31 Method ................................................................................................................................. 34 Chapter 4: Context ................................................................................................................... 39 Two over-arching factors ..................................................................................................... 39 Factors affecting New Zealand marriages in 1950 ............................................................... 43 The rise in divorce rates in New Zealand ............................................................................. 50 What had changed by 1980?................................................................................................ 52 The New Zealand Woman’s Weekly (1932 ) ...................................................................... 61 Chapter 5: The voice of common sense frames the problem ................................................. 67 ‘Ask Lou Lockheart’ (1950) ................................................................................................... 69 ‘Dear Karen Kay’ (1980) ........................................................................................................ 79 “Am I getting too serious?” (29 September, 1980, p.85)..................................................... 94 Chapter 6: Romantic love ........................................................................................................ 96 Three views on the ‘modern’ love relationship ................................................................... 96 Types of love ........................................................................................................................ 98 ‘Real love’ in 1950 ................................................................................................................ 98 ‘Real love’ in 1980 .............................................................................................................. 105 A fourth view: ‘mythic’ and ‘realistic’ love ......................................................................... 112 Increased expectations ...................................................................................................... 115 Chapter 7: “I love him, but ...” ............................................................................................... 117 That “perpetual hazard” infidelity ..................................................................................... 117 Overview of other problems discussed .............................................................................. 137 What’s love got to do with it? ............................................................................................ 140 Community attitudes to divorce ........................................................................................ 140 What exactly had changed? ............................................................................................... 142 Chapter 8: ‘The personal is political’ ..................................................................................... 144 Gender roles in 1950 .......................................................................................................... 154

Identity in a love marriage? Exploring the consequences of South Asian women's choice to take part in inter-racial relationships

Abstract: This thesis examines the challenges faced by young South Asian Canadian women when they choose to become involved in interracial intimate relationships. A feminist intersectional framework was used to analyze the ‘othering’ by home communities and experiences of ‘insider’ and ‘outsider’ status negotiated on a regular basis by the women. Data was collected through a mixed methods approach combining findings from semi-structured in-depth interviews with 10 South Asian women between the ages of 18-30 in Surrey and Vancouver, British Columbia and reflexive autobiographical analysis of the study author’s own lived experience. Secondary sources used to contextualize the findings include sociological and feminist literature on South Asian women in Canada and multiculturalism, race and ethnic relations. The study findings indicate that South Asian women construct their own racialized and bicultural identities over time and in relation to the stigmatization they experience from both their own community and dominant Canadian society. Self-identification is complex and difficult for some women because of the interplay of the intense cultural socialization most received at home, and the ongoing influence of Western culture as they grew up. Not all of the women experienced the same negative consequences when involved in interracial relationships, but most showed similar emotional consequences such as distress and fear caused by familial and home community pressures to meet culturally prescribed gender role expectations and duties. Most also wanted to balance both the ethnic and Canadian aspects of their lives, retaining their South Asian heritage while adopting Westernized views on subjects such as personal happiness, marriage and independence. Multiculturalism is valued by some and seen as justification of their mixed unions. Others critiqued multiculturalism, seeing it as useful or practiced only in theory. For the 10 South Asian female participants of this study, the subject of interracial relationships and its impact on young women needs more dialogue. This thesis provides a beginning point.

[Supporting the Love, Marriage, and Child-Rearing of Persons with Schizophrenia].

Abstract: Persons with schizophrenia and their families have strong interests and hopes for love, marriage, pregnancy, and child-rearing. These experiences often lead to recovery from schizophrenia. There are many partners with schizophrenia who enjoy fruitful lives even with their disability. However, only some persons can enter into such lives in the real world in Japan and other countries. This leads persons with schizophrenia to develop a discouraged and disappointed attitude, and also causes professionals of mental health to develop indifference or pessimism about these issues. Schizophrenics are thought to have interests in love and sexual behavior just as strong as the general population. I discuss with my patients about these issues and working life early in the course of treatment. Because they lose their chance to learn adult behavior in social lives with peers due to the beginning of schizophrenia, they need an opportunity to participate in a social situation to learn knowledge and skills of dating and related behaviors, and systematic education such as psycho-education and social skills training should be provided. Continuing married life and child-rearing require more support from experts with rich experience and knowledge. Psychiatrists are required to participate in shared decision-making about medication during pregnancy and breast-feeding, as well as provide knowledge on the benefits and risks of antipsychotics. Net-working with the family, professionals of child welfare, and the community is necessary to support child-rearing. Urakawa Bethel's House was introduced as a pioneering concept to support love, marriage, and child-rearing. Finally, professionals' negative or indifferent attitudes toward these issues are discussed in the setting of treatment. I hope that professionals of mental health will think about these issues from the standpoints of persons with schizophrenia and their families.