Parents or Prisons

TLDR: For some people, prisons are a substitute for parents This apparent overstatement is shorthand for two more precise points First, without parents, two of them, married to each other, working together as a team, a child is more likely to end up in the criminal justice system at some point in his life Without parents, prison becomes a greater probability in the child's life as discussed by the authors.

Abstract: FOR SOME PEOPLE, prisons are a substitute for parents This apparent overstatement is shorthand for two more precise points First, without parents--two of them, married to each other, working together as a team--a child is more likely to end up in the criminal justice system at some point in his life Without parents, prison becomes a greater probability in the child's life Second, if a child finds himself in the criminal justice system, either in his youth or adulthood, the prison will perform the parental function of supervising and controlling that person's behavior Of course, prison is a pathetic substitute for genuine parents Incarceration provides extreme, tightly controlled supervision that children typically outgrow in their toddler years and does so with none of the love and affection that characterize normal parental care of small children But that is what is happening: The person has failed to internalize the self-command necessary for living in a reasonably free and open society at the age most people do Since he cannot control himself, someone else must control him If he becomes too much for his parents, the criminal justice system takes over These necessary societal interventions do not repair the loss the child has sustained by the loss of a relationship with his parents By the time the penal system steps in, the state is engaged in damage control A child without a conscience, a child without self-control, is a lifelong problem for the rest of society A free society needs people with consciences The vast majority of people must obey the law voluntarily If people don't conform themselves to the law, someone will either have to compel them to do so or protect the public when they do not It costs a great deal of money to catch, convict, and incarcerate lawbreakers--not to mention that the surveillance and monitoring of potential criminals tax everybody's freedom if habitual lawbreakers comprise too large a percentage of the population The basic self-control and reciprocity that a free society takes for granted do not develop automatically Conscience development takes place in childhood Children need to develop empathy so they will care whether they hurt someone or whether they treat others fairly They need to develop self-control so they can follow through on these impulses and do the right thing even if it might benefit them to do otherwise All this development takes place inside the family Children attach to the rest of the human race through their first relationships with their parents They learn reciprocity, trust, and empathy from these primal relationships Disrupting those foundational relations has a major negative impact on children as well as on the people around them In particular, children of single parents--or completely absent parents--are more likely to commit crimes Without two parents, working together as a team, the child has more difficulty learning the combination of empathy, reciprocity, fairness, and selfcommand that people ordinarily take for granted If the child does not learn this at home, society will have to manage his behavior in some other way He may have to be rehabilitated, incarcerated, or otherwise restrained In this case, prisons will substitute for parents The observation that there are problems for children growing up in a disrupted family may seem to be old news Ever since Barbara Defoe Whitehead famously pronounced "Dan Quayle Was Right" (Atlantic Monthly, April 1993), the public has become more aware that single motherhood is not generally glamorous in the way it is sometimes portrayed on television David Blankenhorn's Fatherless America (Basic Books, 1995) depicted a country that is fragmenting along family lines Blankenhorn argued, and continues to argue in his work at the Institute for American Values, that the primary determinant of a person's life chances is whether he grew up in a household with his own father …